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Yes, My Wife and I Have Been Married for more than 35 Years: Danger is the key to happiness

On a lighter note, it has come up almost every day since the Nancy Nix fundraiser on Friday, August 4th.  Yes, it’s true; my wife and I have been married for 35 years.  It was at that event because I was sitting right next to the stage where some excellent comedians were performing next to my wife where I was the set-up for a joke that personal details about my life would be discussed in public.  I knew as I sat in a room full of people that I would be the subject of their comedy acts, but that was part of the fun.  After all, I am shy and like to keep a low profile, which helps me come out of my shell a bit.  So the comedian asked me how long my wife and I had been married, assuming we were much younger than we were.  He was working on a joke that poked fun at our conservative nature.  My wife is attractive, and it’s always an assumption that people make when they meet us in person that there must be some interesting story and that premarital sex would likely be involved.  That’s where the comedian was going with the line of questioning.  He asked how long we had been married.  I told him 35 years.  There was a bit of a gasp from the audience and in his face because it blew his set-up.  People don’t think we are that old, but we are.  And the following line of questioning was that we have kids in their 30s, which is also unusual.  Because his joke required us to have children older than our marriage, and in our case, that just wasn’t possible.  So to recover from this mild disappointment, he asked me if we ever argue, assuming that I would say the typical thing for a long-standing marriage, that we get along great and love each other emphatically.  My response was that we argue daily, which drew a laugh because everyone assumes conflict is destructive for a marriage.  But it’s the only way I can have a relationship with anybody, especially a wife. 

Since that nice fundraiser, I have been asked about the length of our marriage and whether it was true that my wife and I argue daily or if it was all just a joke from many of the people there.  No, it’s true; we have been married for 35 years and argue daily.  People wrongly assume that getting along is how you have a good marriage, and spicy conversation is the key, at least for me.  I like to fight; I will fight about anything, anywhere, about anything.  Peace is boring to me.  I would be mind numb if there was no conflict, so for me, conflict is a heavenly device, and the more conflict there is in my life, the happier I am.  However, arguing with someone doesn’t mean that you don’t love them.  It means you care for them; otherwise, you wouldn’t try to convince them of your opinion.  If you didn’t love or care for them, you likely wouldn’t want to convince them over to your position.  In the case of a marriage, through an argument.  And I can say honestly that my wife and I have argued over something passionately nearly every day of those 35 years and likely will for another 30 years.  The reason is that I am a very volatile personality.  And she is a very cautious person.  She gets what she doesn’t naturally have in me: a constant presence of danger and instability.  In her, I get someone to argue with.  It’s a recipe for a great relationship. 

I could tell stories from now until the end of time on a few examples, but a few that come to mind for context is one recently where we were in the mountains of Idaho driving down into Utah from a very high elevation with our RV in tow.  The wind was gusting so severely that there were cautions about going in it.  So we had our RV blowing behind us like a giant sail that felt like it would drag us right off the mountain.  We had much of our family in the car, four adults and a few children, and a dog, and there were very few guard rails.  A wrong move, and we could have easily been swept over a thousand-foot drop to the river below.  My wife was white-knuckling any handhold she could grab and was terrified with each wind gust.  She wanted me to stop immediately and wait out the wind, which would not happen soon.  We were in the middle of nowhere, and going backward was just as dangerous as going forward.  So I did what I did in most of those situations: I went faster and more aggressively and enjoyed the whole thing immensely.  We had another such incident just a year before, where we were outrunning an incoming snowstorm coming out of Colorado into New Mexico.  And the roads were covered with snow and ice drifting across the desert.  It was the same situation; we were hauling our RV at a high rate of speed, trying to outrun the storm after driving 13 straight hours to Roswell, New Mexico.  She wanted me to stop because we were sliding all over the road, and I had to go fast to outrun the cumulous cloud above us that was gaining steam from the setting sun.  It was night, and the lack of a sun fueled the storm into a monstrosity of more cold air, and it was moving across the desert at over 80 miles per hour.  She was furious with me, and I had a giant smile.  Those are what keep marriages together for 35 years. 

I would be bored out of my mind without experiences like that, and truthfully, she loves having those experiences with me.  I can only tell you how happy she was when we arrived in Roswell, New Mexico alive, or Vernal, Utah, with all our family safe after that scary trip on the mountain tops at over 6000 feet.  Surviving those kinds of things make the microwave popcorn taste a lot better when you get to camp and enjoy the luxuries of home in some distant place, in a favorite foldout chair.  And that’s also why we sat right next to the stage at that comedy event.  Being safe is not fun for me.  And if not for me, my wife would not push herself to expand her boundaries of comfort.  She is rarely comfortable with how I do things, but if she didn’t grab on like she does, cursing at me and all, there are a lot of crazy stories she wouldn’t have in life that have made our life together very interesting.  I could tell of one from Paris recently that is very funny, and it involved a bicycle and a few more of my kids as we were trying to catch a train.  We still joke about it at Thanksgiving dinner, which makes for an exciting life.  And while people make assumptions about safety being the root cause of happiness, I can report the opposite as accurate.  Danger is the best thing for a long marriage; to maintain a long one, comfort zones must be pushed to have a healthy relationship.  And zest is undoubtedly the key ingredient to frequent arguments.  Docile compliance would be disastrous.  Arguing is very beneficial in almost all circumstances in all parts of a life, marriages especially.

Rich Hoffman

I Hate Love: Remember, Jezebel was thrown out of a window and eaten by dogs, which I think was a wonderful thing

One of the things I hate the most in the world is the word “love.” I absolutely hate it. Not because I don’t love things; actually, there are many things in the world that I “love.” I am very passionate about a great many topics and things. But the way the word “love” has been dispersed to us over a long period, most recently with the KGB intelligence strategy to impose in America the peace sign during the hippie movement, the goal was always to undo us to collapse while we were busy “loving” each other. The peace sign was meant to change our value systems from a warring nation with the best military, capital markets, and endless opportunities for the most people, and to erode those values so other countries could knock us off to be the new world players. The peace movement was always an attack, meant to take advantage of our natural inclination to “love” as we have interpreted the Bible by many of the same maniacal characters. The churches themselves have sought to be the big power players competing with governments for power since the beginning of time, so much of what values they have extracted from the Bible were interpreted for us in view of our role being sheep more than the shepherd or the wolf. I’ve read the Bible, backward and forwards, along with many other books, and I don’t get a message of love at all costs. Love has a cost, and that is the insult when a hippie culture of communists came along in the 50s, 60s, and 70s to impose on an entire generation a KGB strategy meant to undo us all by exposing our misunderstandings of Christian values that say we must love at all costs.

Instead, I look at love as a currency that has value. And by associating love as unconditionally, then we have allowed elements of our society to take advantage, and they certainly have. That’s not how it is in my life. If I love people or things, there are conditions. And if those parties don’t live up to the expectations, I don’t love regardless. And why would anybody? The idea that we should love each other no matter what we do to each other is ridiculous. It was the enemies of America who came up with all these dumb notions about hate, that “hate” hurts you more than it does me kind of thing. No, hate is a value system that pulls love away from those undeserving. And allows you to function guilt free when people betray you. And under such functions, a nation is then better able to make decisions on treason, sedition, and betrayal of each other or of our country and the values it represents.

The part of the Bible with Jesus in it saying things like “forgive them, father, for they do not know what they do” is very small. Over time, we have been directed to focus on it because those sentiments serve the power forces in the world in whatever form they present themselves. Many people who point at the Bible and say it tells us to love unconditionally never read the Bible but instead allow themselves to be seduced by an institutionalist from the church who interprets life much the way a common politician does. I would say that the God of the Bible is a vengeful character who killed many millions of people to stop them from essentially worshipping Baal. Satan, Lucifer, and all elements of the Beast are constructs of the pagan gods who predate the Exodus. God spent many pages of the Bible punishing those who keep running to Baal and breaking the Ten Commandments. Any modern interpretation of the unconditional love of God by sending his son Jesus to die for our sins is wrapped up in the powerful forces of the world who want their sheep to go quietly into the slaughterhouse instead of fighting for what’s right. 

Love is something that is earned, and it should be something that is a deterrent to bad behavior. If people don’t value God’s love, which is what much of the Bible is all about, then God’s wrath comes upon them, and they will be punished for their behavior. Sometimes it’s death, such as the holy man in Kings 13, who a lion kills because he disobeyed the Lord.   Apparently, he was punished for not listening, and a lion just came along and tore him to shreds. And people saw the body and just kept walking by as the lion stood next to an ass (a donkey). The churches of Europe throughout the Middle Ages after the fall of the Roman Empire, then up until the present period of subversion by intelligence agencies, whether it’s the KGB during the Cold War or the CIA in America yesterday trying to discourage voters from voting for President Trump, love has been the means to attack, to keep everyone unaware of the actual war that has been going on for centuries. And what you get in the end is the worship of Baal, just as occurred in the Bible repeatedly, from those who spit in the face of God and then had to feel the wrath. To my way of looking at things, the wrath of love lost should be a deterrent. To lose love should be something people don’t want to experience. And if they think love will always be there and you don’t have to work to maintain it, you will see a collapsed culture. 

And there is nothing worse than the “free love” movement where sexually, the whole ceremony of love has been cheapened on purpose. I have a significant social media imprint and can’t record how many women send me DMs for hookups, which I find repulsive. They don’t know better, especially the young women who are coming out of their teens and are 20-somethings looking for a welfare check from an older man. They were raised in this free-love environment that started with the topless losers at Woodstock in 1969. Many of these young women are the kids and grandkids of those old hippie, pot-smoking deadbeats. And love lost its currency a long time ago because it was cheapened, but it is an evil culture that has turned to Baal repeatedly, just as Jezebel did. Remember what happened to her? She was thrown out of a window and eaten by dogs because she went against God. And I think that was a good thing to have happened. We are at a point where we have to stop the strategy that Saul Alinsky and many other enemies of America have inflicted on us all, our gullibility toward love, and our misplaced value of maintaining love at all costs, because we believe it’s the thing God wants us to do. I don’t think God wants an immoral society and that everything is cool just because Jesus died on the cross. We live this life and die to be born again in heaven. Instead, I would argue that we should fight for what’s right, whether here on earth in 2023 or in heaven beyond time’s reach. Love is a currency we should cash in and distribute to those worthy. And to those who aren’t, they need to feel the wrath of hate and all that comes with it.

Rich Hoffman

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Aaron Rodgers and Ayahuasca: The way liberalism hides behind ancient religions and masks of goodness

As if the raiding of President Trump’s home wasn’t enough, or the collapse of the global economy, the perverts who run public education and are a far greater menace to children than the potential danger of school shooters, or the purposeful deaths created by government in reaction to the government creation of Covid, then the mismanagement of it, the Aaron Rodgers story about taking Ayahuasca during a trip to Peru might not seem like such a big deal. But really, it is. It shows the undercurrent of a massive, global sentiment toward drug use to fulfill the religious needs of globalists and their reverence to mother earth worship and ancient taboos meant to control mass society. I have only said, all of my long life, that any government that is permissive to drug use is one that wants to dumb down its citizens so they are easier to control and less of a threat to their eventual power. That is certainly the case with the latest Ayahuasca drug cult that has been emerging for a while now, not just in global cultures but specifically in America. I would point to musical groups like The Doors as part of that ceremonial tribalism that had in its always intentions worship of the dualist goddess cults that were constantly plaguing the earth with stupidity and mayhem. The use of psychedelics to “open” the mind to new experiences is not a new thing, and I do subscribe to the current theory that it was through plant-based psychedelic diets that caused mankind’s consciousness to expand into what we see today, something capable of creation in mimicking and possibly even surpassing what was viewed in the shamanic visions induced through various drugs. Ayahuasca is a plant-based brew that is specific to the Amazon rainforests and has been used by shamans there for thousands of years to communicate with what they call the “dead.” So along comes aimless Aaron Rodgers, a guy who is at midlife without children, even without a wife, searching for meaning. So he went like a lot of people do in his condition to Peru and sought out the advice of a shaman, and what he learned was the advice of an undercurrent religion to which the United Nations is dedicated entirely, the worship of the earth and understanding that nature has dominion over mankind, not the other way around as it says to us in the Book of Genesis. 

Liberalism has always come to us disguised in music, movies, drugs, and essentially all aspects of artistic culture. It never announces itself as a religion, but once you peel back the layers of all secret societies which operate in the background of our culture, specifically politics, it is then discovered the old religion of dualism, which essentially states that all things in the material world are evil. The only good thing is to sacrifice yourself to the spirit world and live for everlasting life, life without a body. That means that all things created in life, regarding material flesh, wives, children, houses, things that the American Constitution protects, are to be discarded in favor of a spiritual life oblivious to material comforts. This is where the dumb ideas of fasting come from: living a life of celibacy and material denial in service to religious objectives. But under all that sacrifice is the duelist notion of living as plants do; when they die, their seed reproduces and spawns again. If you cut off the limbs of a tree, it grows back. And in that way, nature represents everlasting life and is the most essential thing in the world to work for. That is what Pablo Amaringo would say, the famous Peruvian shaman who has been celebrated around the world for his fantastic art regarding his Ayahuasca visions. For this reason, I have been talking about this culture for a while now, well before Aaron Rodgers announced his experiences at the start of the 2022 football season in using it to secure his MVP title the year before. 

I kind of like Aaron Rodgers; I know he’s a reader and is thoughtful about things, at least for the athletic jock types. He’s unusually intelligent. But that doesn’t mean he doesn’t know when he is being played by the undercurrents of mass society in general. He is very much plugged into the corporate world through his many endorsements, and he got himself into a little trouble last year when he stood up to the NFL push to mandate vaccines. In the way things work, this Ayahuasca thing is a bone thrown toward the globalists because they love the idea that a popular media figure like Rodgers is promoting drug use for psychological alignment and mental health. That is music to their ears. And the fact that liberalism has seeped into Aaron Rogers’ life in many ways can be seen in his new girlfriend, Blu of Earth. They now have matching tattoos that have all the symbols of dualism contained in it on their forearms. What they call a spiritual journey is essentially the same dualist religions that have been with the world since the beginning of time and are certainly pushbacks against the latest religious invention of material culture as we know of it in Christianity and god giving men dominion over the earth and everything on it. 

We know that the goal of the KGB when they were planting seeds of destruction in American culture through our universities in the 40s and 50s was to create a society not of warring cowboys and gunslingers, as America was at the time, but a bunch of tree-hugging hippies smoking dope, taking LSD to find themselves, and to embrace love, not war. That is, of course, what the enemy would love. In the modern context, it makes the globalists very happy to see a great warrior of America, an American football player talking about seeking love in his life and living peacefully with existence. And from Aaron Rodgers’ perspective, I’m sure the pressures of performance on television week in and week out have their own challenges, and managing that pressure requires thinking outside the box. When you don’t have a wife or kids, and those parts of your life feel like they are leaving you behind, of course, it’s easy to find meaning in earth worship and ancient religions that speak against materialism and spiritual fulfillment. The caution should come from any culture in knowing what the undercurrents are to the sentiment, the reason that Ayahuasca is being suddenly shown as a solution to the world’s problems. I personally think there are scientific benefits to Ayahuasca and that what it does is benefit the human brain in pulling off the restrictor plates in the visual spectrum that we currently have. But I don’t think it’s a miracle drug or the great boon of existence. Instead, the benefit is in seeing the influences on mankind that often hide in the shadows. We misdiagnose them as “spirit guides” when they are likely demons, “tricksters,” whispers of doom and destruction who use famous celebrities to spread their message of wickedness and destruction behind presentations of peace and love. Ayahuasca can allow us to see those maniacal creatures and to deal with them. But the danger is in thinking they are here to help us. And behind the religious intentions of globalists, this is their ultimate plan, to submit all of mankind to the gods of nature and to destroy the materialist concepts of Christianity forever. It’s a plan with all the elements of evil we might fear and then some.

Rich Hoffman

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