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Bad, Mad Moms Can’t Rule Anything, Especially in Politics: What the real anger towards Darbi Boddy at Lakota indicates

I usually wouldn’t care, but as I’ve said many times, I support Darbi Boddy, who is a Lakota school board member, and there are a lot of mad moms and some strangely testosterone-free dads who just absolutely hate her and are petitioning to remove her from the board with a signature drive. So I’ve been reading some of the comments and listening to their complaints about Darbi more than I otherwise would to see if there is anything to their anger. Of course, there isn’t. Much of what they don’t like Darbi over is the result of their own terrible parenting, which requires some point of reference to consider. First of all, the attempt to remove a school board member with a petition drive is a steep hill. No matter how many signatures they gather, there were still 8 thousand people who had just put her in office, and a judge would ultimately have to rule on the action. So, just because there are a lot of mad moms signing a petition, that doesn’t mean they have any power to remove Darbi from her position, no matter how many of them sign a piece of paper. But let’s forget about that for this article and consider what they are so mad at, why they are angry with her, then consider what impact such people have on government in general. This situation with Darbi Boddy is just one local example of a much bigger problem that creates a lot of noise in all government interaction, the mad mom activist and the reasons they lobby government to compensate their children for the things that they, as parents, should be giving them. When you listen carefully to their complaints about Darbi Boddy, psychologically, what we really hear from them is nothing that Darbi has done but that they are planting a seed of discontent that will put the blame for their own bad parenting on a politician or a school. They crave more centralized authority to mask their own parental inadequacies.

I personally think motherhood is the most important job on planet earth. There is nothing else that comes close to the importance of motherhood. There is no CEO job or President of the United States that has a more important job than a mom in a family. She gives children everything they will ever be; if she does a bad job, the kids will be screwed up for life. It’s a big responsibility, and I think we should support moms much more than we do as a society. But, saying all that, often, moms are just kids themselves. As 20-somethings and 30-somethings, about to the age of 40, people just don’t have enough emotional development to have all the wisdom that children require. Motherhood is tricky business; in the beginning of a child’s life, it’s easy to know whether or not a mom is doing a good job.   Kids need everything when they are born. So if a mom keeps a child from crying, then they could be said to have success in their task. If they are there to help teach the child to walk, dress themselves, and can keep them from crying, because that’s all kids know to do when they are born, then a mom can say to herself that she is a good mom. But, at about age five, that entire relationship changes, and most parents don’t adapt. This second part of the job of raising a child is much more difficult, and most parents, especially in the kind of society we have these days, are not prepared for the task. 

From ages 5 to 15, children need wisdom from their parents, especially their moms. They need to learn to start managing risk and to advance their intellect through many minor bumps and bruises, which will then instruct them how to solve problems when they are adults. But too often, moms are still trying to keep their children from crying instead of teaching them not to cry and to solve their problems, no matter what they are. Kids need wise advice more than a padded room during this period of time, and it is monstrously difficult for moms to make that transition. I call this the “fat ass” phase, where anxious moms overeat because their own childhood neurosis explodes against the perpetual disappointments of the intellectual needs of their children, and it shows in the parents with expanded waistlines and upsized jean sizes. It’s no longer easy to just stop them from crying; what kids need in those formative years is much more difficult than simple pacification, and most mothers fail at it miserably. So they eat too many bags of chips, they divert their attention to too much ridiculous trivia, and when the children need that wise advice, the mother simply doesn’t have it in them. Too often, moms led embarrassing lives up until the time they were married or decided to have a baby, and all the guilt from that previous life comes back at them now that they are in charge of another life, and they just lack the confidence to give wise advice to anybody. 

Those mad moms turn to the government to help raise their children. This momma-age voting bracket is filled with big government disasters of people who were ill-equipped to have children or even be married to a spouse. So they vote for big government to hide their many faults behind government action. So the anger you often hear leveled at a school board member like Darbi Boddy at Lakota is because the parents feel inadequate. They want government to give them cover for their bad parenting skills, and a person like Darbi is encouraging more responsibility. When she takes pictures of kids dressed like prostitutes in the halls of Lakota, violating dress codes, it makes the parents feel bad because their bad parenting has been exposed. I can certainly understand why it would hurt their feelings, but perhaps it should. Rather than getting angry at Darbi, perhaps the right thing to do would be to change how they are parenting for the child’s sake. Trying to be the cool mom to a child that clearly has issues based on the way they appear in public isn’t going to give that child the skills they need once they become adults. What will end up happening is they will just repeat the process when they have their own children. And we’ll have more societal disasters in government as a result. Those people will become voters who seek to hide their bad behavior, their wasted lives behind more big government programs, which then gives us the kind of trouble we see today in politics. 

The worst public excuse that you can hear from a mother when they make demands on political sentiment when they are trying to express validation for their cause is to say, “I’m a mom,” as if that should say it all. Because she’s a mom, she has the right to ask for anything, and society should do whatever it takes to help her kid become successful. But she should have thought about that when she wasted her own youth sexually reckless, doing the floss at every wedding reception in a drunken stupor to the big butt song, and taking too many drugs from ages 15 to 25 when they realize that their flowers are wilting and they better do something to start a family by around age 30 before all their petals fall off and nobody wants to buy a house with them. Those are not the kind of conditions that produce a healthy family and make well-balanced kids who grow up into success. Those are crippling conditions that destroy lives, not just of the mother but of all her offspring. And Lakota schools, any government school, or any government agency cannot help such a person hide all the mistakes they have made in life with more policy, more rules, all driven from neurotic nonsense. Kids need a mom and a good person who can give them good advice. And when parents don’t feel confident in their ability to provide sound advice, they become these train-wrecks of people you see at school board meetings speaking about what they need Lakota to do to make their kid better. Or they complain about Darbi Boddy and put a lot of attention into getting rid of her with a petition drive. Rather than spend that time listening to their kids and advising them on how to be good people, they instead spend all their efforts getting rid of a school board member so that when their children are disasters of people twenty years from now, they can point to the school and blame them for all the mistakes. But the truth is, the problems begin and end with the moms who never made the successful transition with their kids from preventing them from crying to the wise advisor that children ultimately need. The great crisis of our time is that when kids reach that critical age, there just aren’t enough parents who can fill that role, and kids are greatly hampered in life because of it.

Rich Hoffman

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Public Education is Over: It’s a nationwide change that isn’t going away

It’s not just the actions at Lakota schools in Northern Cincinnati that brought me to where I am now. I have spoken to dozens and dozens of people over the last few weeks regarding the Darbi Boddy school board drama, and I feel really sorry for the people who have been hoping that public education could be saved somehow. But as I have said to all those people and more, I just don’t see the controversy at Lakota. I see personality problems, but as I’ve said, whenever you get a clash of change agencies crashing into a very static institution, things are bound to get pushy. I never thought otherwise of the school board at Lakota. Instead, there are national trends that are forming in the background that are very much part of the Lakota story. What is about to happen at Lakota, with major resignations coming up due to the pressure of the changes, is going to happen in all public schools. I hoped to be wrong about it and hoped that with a decent school board, some form of public education for the people who do love it might last. But it’s quite clear to me that public education is impossibly broken and that the role of a modern school board is to manage the decline. Long gone are the days when Friday Night Football would rally behind the great local quarterback who threw 400 yards and four touchdowns to unite the community behind the sports page on a Saturday morning. And college recruits were in the stands handing out scholarships like Halloween candy. No, those days are over, forever. The people I have talked to as fall out from the controversies at Lakota are all well-intentioned. But they do not see the obvious because it’s simply too painful for them. They do love public education, and they really don’t have the heart for what’s coming.

Of course, you do want to know what’s coming and why now is such a pinnacle time. Well, institutions are collapsing along with the economy, which is overall the net result of over a century of failed progressive philosophy. They have gone all in, and the public has not been with them. All this became exposed during Covid, the progressive teacher unions, and the highly paid superintendent class that sort of functioned as a barrier between the radicals and the elected school board members. Once the rhythm was broken in the public education cycle, and people learned to live without it, there was no way ever to put Humpty Dumpty back together again. At best, public schools were going to be fragments of their former selves. But then parents learned just how radical the government schools really were. It used to be that many people, including Glenn Beck, were put off by my position on public education at the height of the Tea Party movement.    I was saying that public education was doomed to fail back in 2012 and 2013 when Beck and I had a mutual friend, Doc Thompson, who was trying to broker talk between us to do some radio work on The Blaze, as I used to do on Clear Channel Radio. I was too much of a rock thrower for Glenn Beck at that time of his life, and all avenues between The Blaze and me were cut after President Trump was elected. Soon after, Doc Thompson was mysteriously killed by a train while working directly for Beck in Texas. I was indifferent to Beck. He was a never-Trumper then, and of course, I was all about Trump, so there hasn’t been an opportunity to reconcile. Well, I had Beck’s show on in the background the other day, and he was telling everyone what I said a decade ago, “take your kids out of public schools; they are dangerous for your children. Do it now!” Just ten years ago, it was fringe when I said such things. Now it’s a mainstreamer conservative talk show host with many millions of people listening to him daily saying it. Times have changed a lot, and people are finally starting to listen. 

As I said during the Trump administration, if Covid hadn’t been set loose to destroy the fourth year of the president and hopes for re-election by destroying the American economy, the Department of Education was poised to be dismantled. States were preparing to apply a new funding model to the public school systems, where the money follows the child, not to the school. This would force the unionized institutions to compete for effectiveness. Lakota certainly wasn’t happy about that, and in many ways, Covid saved them from that eventuality. With Joe Biden in the White House, public education won’t see changes, but that’s not saying much. Biden, as of this writing, is at 28% approval. Dinesh D’Souza’s movie 2000 Mules has shown serious proof of direct election fraud funded by Facebook, and institutional politics is trying desperately to keep it all undercover.

Meanwhile, more and more mad moms are getting elected to school boards, moms like Darbi Boddy at Lakota. Even if the school board convinced her to resign, there are hundreds just like her who are winning seats all over the country, and all want the same thing. They want to protect their kids from what they have come to see as an institutional menace to their children where school boards stand between them to keep the peace, to keep those Friday night football games something the community continues to do. But that all came to a crashing end with Covid, and parents found other things to do. 

In the last election, I supported school board members to help bring solutions, people I knew who liked public education more than I did. So a part of me really wanted to be wrong. I knew I wasn’t, but I wanted to be. As they are now, public schools will not survive the transition to a system where the money travels with the student, which will eventually happen. That gives the school boards the task of keeping that managed decline as good as possible so that the failure of public schools does not destroy entire communities. The communities around Lakota have much more going on than being destroyed by a school. Add to the high gas prices, the sudden shortages of items that people used to take for granted, and a political system at the federal level that people didn’t support to begin with; all the old progressive institutions are going to fail, just as the Biden administration is failing. Now that they have their dream candidate in the White House with both houses of Congress under their control, they went too far. They used Covid to grab for powers that terrified many parents who had been on the fence for their entire lives only to come face to face with their greatest fears, the pincushion, rainbow-haired LGBTQRSTUVWXYZ teachers who wanted to turn their tomboy daughters into a Tom and to cram it down their throats and demand that they like it. Well, people are tired of government ramming things down their throats, and they will take it out on their local communities, specifically their public schools. If they can’t get to Joe Biden, they’ll get to the local school board, who they see as just as much of a menace. And more and more, the moderates will be pushed off and replaced by mad moms seeking to protect their children the way angry mommas do. And there is no putting that anger back in the bottle now that people have admitted it to themselves. Public education is over. What we are seeing now is just the beginning. 

Rich Hoffman

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The Mad Moms of Biological Socialism: A changing world that is taking root in logic instead of chaos

One thing is for sure, this latest round of local elections around the I-275 loop in Cincinnati has reunited me with many old friends from the No Lakota days. I used to cover education topics all over the city, not just at Lakota. But for the last several years have been more concerned about Second Amendment issues and the presidency of Donald Trump. Honestly, the debates about public education are boring and I have grown to hate many of the people advocating for government schools because I determined long ago that they were up to no good not only in what they were teaching our children, but in what they expected from the community. The fight against them is a needed one and I am glad to see how many people are still out there fighting the good fight, because it is having an impact. The needle has moved, and that has been beneficial.

I was with family members over the weekend who like all the wrong people for all the wrong reasons at Lakota, essentially so that they can have busing and some thought of day care for their children. The whole issue sickens me every time I go through it with people, because they just don’t get it. Just as in Lakota when pro-business forces produced a letter showing proof of anti-business bias from Ohio schools, most people just didn’t make a connection to the story. People sending their kids to these monstrosities of government programming are young socialists themselves. When I listen to a young mother talk, they seem all too often to be little biological socialists by default, and they vote that way. Everything in the world is supposed to yield to the needs of their child and that includes the mother herself who will literally sacrifice every last essence of their lives to give their little child what they need. I call these types of people biological socialists because they behave the same way as political ones. Their child becomes the institution instead of some government entity. But the behavior is the same, which is why government schools constantly tap into that sentiment with rigor, because it matches their overall objective.

Young moms most of the time are enduring a ten year period of insanity because its written into their biological code to do so, and it is those types of people who vote like ravenous wolves every little safety endeavor, and school levy need in government schools, because they are functioning from that train of thought, of a young socialist not much different than the most radical communist supporter of yesteryear. As well meaning as those people are, they are not functioning from logic meaning that they must be met on the battlefield of ideas with resistance, and to that effect I am glad to see so many still out there fighting the good fight even after many years of tough trench warfare that has yielded very little benefit. The important thing to note is that there have been incremental benefits that are changing the dialogue in a positive direction.

What becomes clear is that many of these modern rebellions against the school systems are by the very same women who used to be mothers but are several decades removed from the practice and have regained their minds from the turmoil of the constant needs of a young one. Once their children have grown up and away from those demanding years of childhood, they see the story for what it was all along, and they are standing up to the vast evils that emerge from public education as renewed spirits. No longer are they worried about their child getting to school on a bus, or what the cafeteria is feeding their kid for lunch, but they start to see the big picture of how things work and they aren’t happy about it politically, and want to do something about it. I especially heard from old friends in the Lebanon school district who are fighting a good fight there, as well as Talawanda. Over this last election we have had something of a class reunion, and it has been encouraging.

There is a reason that modern politics put their focus on these young socialist moms who have the depth of knowledge of a fruitcake and the memory of a fly. Because they are up to know good and looking to exploit their depleted natures for the benefit of their party politics, which in the case of public schools is nearly always some form of socialism. You don’t see many of these mad, crazy moms out there advocating for Constitutional concepts, rather, they just want their kid safe from a dangerous world and they turn to these crazy leftist teachers to give them instruction as to what they should be thinking about, whether the issue is transgender bathrooms or the fictions of global warming. When you dig just a little bit into the motives of public education and its supporters it becomes clear quickly how vastly evil it is, and how it exploits the natural biological inclinations of motherhood, especially among young ones who are still babies themselves. I would say anybody under 40 is still a baby who has a lot to learn. Yet those babies are making decisions the rest of us who know better constantly must live with and we get tired of it.

Rather than just taking it, many have been fighting back and that is new. The fights have sustained themselves over the many years that we have all been doing this, and they have formed their own cells of leadership that have not required a lot of maintenance. For me, four or five years ago it was a drain to cover everything for everyone, but now that has not been required. A change agency in the culture of public education has taken its own flight and does not need so much input to sustain a drive. And that has been good for challenging the basic premise of public education in a way it has always deserved. To give it a false value just because it was the only thing, has been a disaster for several generations of young people and we should be angry about it. And for me, its good to see that many are and are doing something about it.

Of course, the elections of November 5th will have winners and losers, there always are. What matters is that the desire to fight back is very much alive and has put directly many issues on the ballots across the nation that are healthy, and different from the narratives from a decade ago. People who have been in the trenches fighting are still doing so and are far from conquered, and the cracks in the other side are showing. While the pro government school types every year replenish their troops with a new generation of mad mothers looking toward socialism to protect their little child from the world, the foundations they use to beat us all over the head with are crumbling, and its about time. We will never have real solutions as long as their screaming voices drown out logic, when they would sacrifice everything to have busing when the more philosophical elements of public education need to be re-invented from the foundation up. It was good to hear from real friends whom I’ve come to know over the years and to learn that their spirits are far from broken. Rather, they are poised to take the fight to the next level where it belongs and to finally wear out the system that has been so destructive to the minds of kids everywhere.

Rich Hoffman